Specifically I think of people who say "oh that I do not know" or "no I do not feel capable of doing."
When I hear these phrases, automatically comes a question: what accounts you do about this?
But often the person accepts his incompetence as a fact, an intangible, it does not attempt to override or has attempted to do, she resigned in failure.
This is at least a first hypothesis:
The fearful:
In this case, the person simply believes that it is not "gifted" it is true that culturally we are more or less programmed to believe in "gifts" and "innate" as opposed to work and the "acquis" must of course exceed this and believe in yourself, in its capacity, we all pretty much the same, what makes the difference us all our differences is less "innate" our work. I do not know what sociologist or philosopher said something like this: "our differences and our capabilities are just vapor, condensation requires a community." Next
our environment, family, societal etc. ... we will develop certain abilities rather than others and we will be more gifted in one area than in another, this is true, but there is a but, I think we can quite decide to become competent in a field for which we were not "culturally" intended, is what actually I believe our infinite strength: our ability to decide and to act even against our "pack."
Therefore I believe that with hard work and time you can get everything done, including biensur in the game:
can be reached at Kitt the adds without taking damage, you can keep "control "during a struggle, while the dps next, you can reach back on a platform when we are in the water (SSC Lurker before), we can jump onto the platform without falling to Thaddius pic ...
The list is really long for all these little things that sometimes we can not do, personally I knew the scenario: trouble getting back on the platform at SSC Lurker, sometimes I'm resigned to stay in boiling water and my ego n did not liked! therefore I went, once the big ugly death, outside the raid biensur, train myself to fall off the platform and go up as fast. Learning outside the stress of the raid, was quick and the next time I faced the battle uninhibited and of course I managed easily what I had found so difficult until now. As
when, in high school, I had to learn to climb the rope to the sports event of the tank and I'm gone from 20/20 to vautrage total driving force.
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I can best advise those who have such little problems go, as I did, practicing with a little exercise and especially Apart from the stress of the raid, it progresses quickly.
I can not also be better rl advise, to encourage this kind of work on ourselves, we should promote progress, and reward the "performers" in our consideration of efforts and to update them on the job done and what remains to do: like, "hey I noticed you've mastered better this aspect of the fight, by volume against your care is still a little below what we can expect, I know you're working, it will come, no worries ...
And yes it is our role as: pushing people to excel, trying to get the best and it is not "breaking" person as do too many nicks rl, it is a true work of accompaniment, but it biensur must also be oneself in a good mood and between all, this is not always simple.
A second scenario:
The lazy: they were lazy, did not want to make efforts in the immediate biensur but also because that we could in the future to ask them things they did not want to do because they are comfortably installed in the "I am sorry not do that."
It is indeed a position comfortable, which allows to do less than others, we all know people who say: "do not know how to cook," while it is within the reach of children, it is enough just to have a little generosity in itself to do well, but the opposite is claiming is spared many chores ... many people prefer to go for a fool or (e) rather than giving of oneself or of his time, besides the fact that it's heartbreaking, it's unfortunately very common ...
For those, it will be difficult to change, we can always show them that it is within their reach, they will tend to refuse any change in status, I recommend to them the ultimatum: I want to do that you get to the next raid, otherwise I will take someone else ... etc. ..
There is little in it which can lead to a general effort.En it works pretty well, in fact, often the person requires that one is his "conscience" and to be pushed in its place. (although internally, she cursed).
In conclusion, I would say that what makes the difference between "someone who knows or do not know "is one hand and self-confidence that it can work and improve, and that the person will learn to overcome its shortcomings.
Everyone is capable, very nearly, to come to almost everything, you just have to want it and work in any case it should be resigned and let go Why you say? and well because each step is a learning and an openness to a higher acquired is a door that opens up others who open other ... It is also very rewarding to get to do what we thought we were incompetent, we draw great strength for a lifetime.
In idleness and ease you lose the esteem of self and others, there is no progress, at best you stagnate, you're a burden to others, including those here soon no longer want.
That good reason not to indulge in the ease, that is why we must strive to improve their game play, then another and another, and that it will snowball and so on.
Do not ask too much at once either, I agree there Okar in his article: a target after another, slowly but surely better than to want too much and can nothing. Each goal achieved gives confidence and helps promises further progress possible.
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